Working hard to keep it together, maintain some stability, and not rock the boat? Under the surface you are both full of emotions from the past (anxiety, resentment, distrust) built up during months or years of alcohol or drugs abuse addiction. And even if you aren’t talking about it, chances are you are both uncertain about the future of your lives and the relationship. You thought life would be so much better on the other side of recovery. It is disappointing and dismaying to discover that even now that you or your partner is in recovery, life at home is still messy and difficult with no clear path forward. You or your partner might be even more moody. Maybe you are continuing to walk on eggshells. You want a chance to regain stability.
The good news is that recovery can be a profound and life-enhancing turning point in your relationship. Some couples I’ve worked with have even said, in retrospect, that having the relationship on the brink of destruction was the best thing that ever happened to them. Usually this is because the relationship wasn’t the loving, fulfilling, growthful, and satisfying partnership they longed for. After recovery and when partners are willing to do the personal and interpersonal work to become healthier individually, they can create a more authentic and deep connection.
I want this for you. I know it is available. It certainly is possible to rebuild trust and intimacy, to be more true to yourself, and more honest with your partner, to develop the skills to navigate the difficult and uncomfortable moments, and to let in the joyful ones.
If we are a fit, I would love to be the one to support you to a new way of living and loving. When working with couples where one partner is in early recovery, each partner must have an individual therapist who believes the couples work will support the recovery.
I encourage you to contact me for a free consultation today.